Not all promises are created equal. When you borrow your neighbor’s lawn mower, a simple “have it back to you tomorrow” will suffice. But when you’re promising the one you love that you’ll stand by their side until your dying day, a pinky swear won’t cut it.
That’s why many people decide to solidify their relationship with promise rings long before they go shopping for custom made engagement rings. This idea of a gift to symbolize your commitment prior to exchanging custom made engagement rings probably began in the 50’s in the form of letterman pins, school rings or the boyfriend’s jacket.
Since then, it has evolved into what some people call “pre engagement”. It’s a way of demonstrating that you’re both in it for the long haul; that you intend to stay together through the good and bad times and work as a team when things get rough.
It’s this focus on meaning and symbolism that separates promise rings from the typical custom made engagement rings. With the latter, it’s often a matter of finding the ultimate diamond and the perfect setting to create the ring that you’ve always dreamed about.
By contrast, the promise ring is meant to encapsulate who you are, what’s important to you as a couple and the common threads that hold you together. For many, this is where the true magic of the promise ring emerges. While custom made engagement rings often carry a hefty price tag, promise rings are more about spending time than money, and what a great way to spend your time:
Thinking back to the place you first met. Recalling what she wore the night of your first kiss. Remembering where you were and how you were feeling when you suddenly realized that “we” had replaced “I” in your vocabulary and it happened so smoothly that you almost missed it.
Okay, this can often be easier for women than men, as a guy might have no recollection of her outfit if it wasn’t his favorite hockey jersey. But that’s where a custom jeweler becomes invaluable. If you feel like you’re not the sentimental type, jewelers can do more than design your custom made engagement rings. With a few pointed questions, they can assist you in creating a promise ring that will melt your loved one’s heart without torching your bank account.
Do the two of you have a place or shape that resonates with you? Maybe a flower you both love? What are your birthstones? What is their favorite color? (Tip: If you don’t know the answer to this one yet, you might want to put it on your “to-do” list).
It can be a bit of a process, but the beauty of the promise ring is that, much like your relationship, it isn’t static. It can evolve over time. You can build on it as the two of you progress to custom made engagement rings, wedding bands and anniversary bands. And because it represents something that is unique to you, it will always be in style.
So if you’ve been thinking about taking that next step but keep putting it off until the time is right, the money is available or the inspiration hits, don’t wait. Find a custom jeweler who will be your partner in this process, who will invest their time and energy to help you craft a promise ring that speaks to both of you and tells the world that your love is for keeps. When all is said and done, it’s the best investment you’ll ever make.
And that’s a promise.
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